As a help to those that r new. Communicate with each other. Make sure your desires r known to you spouse or g/f. If your significant other isn't quite sure, then you haven't communicated enough yet. One you both agree that it might add something significant to your relationship, then go out and make connections. The hub should always be close by 2 show support, because she will b incredibly nervous at first. Once she gets into it and nevousness disappears, it will b a great time for all invloved, but only if everyone is on the same page.